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Janelle Hardacre's avatar

"It sounds simple and obvious, but how many times have you not done something because you didn’t feel like it was perfect enough to put it out into the world?" GAH 🙈

Beautiful letter Hannah. Enjoy your birthday season!

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Thanks so much for reading, Janelle, and I’m happy it resonates. Less perfection, more doing is my 4th decade mantra!

Lauren Powell's avatar

This is the bit that landed with me too!

Sarah Best's avatar

Happy early birthday, Hannah!

It's funny how we view 'bigger birthdays' through the lens of what society may present to us - how we 'should' feel, or 'should' behave and so on. But and as you highlight, there will be new challenges, new people, and experiences to learn from, and these can be exciting! Especially when we begin to care a little less about what other people think of us.

Hannah Ashe's avatar

I think you’re right that the caring less about what other people think really starts to help! Here’s to even more of that

Emy @Jepréfèrelire's avatar

Thanks for your words, I needed that this morning after a tough week 🙏🏻

I’m turning 40 next year and I’m ok about it too. I’m growing and working more and more on being myself (tending to my people pleasing tendencies like you), reframing what success really means for me (lot of pressure on that at the moment), and feeling stronger after every « low » episode.

I wish you already happy celebrations for your upcoming birthday 🎂

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Thanks Emy, I’m happy that my words could help a little after a tough week - sorry to hear that.

It’s sounds like you’re also on your journey to understanding your own needs better. Perhaps it takes 40 years (at least) to get there?

Thanks for the birthday wishes too. I’ll be spending it in France (of course 😉)

Maria Hanley's avatar

I adore everything about this, Hannah! You’re right about the focus and dread attached to milestone birthdays. Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone just flipped the script on that? I so agree that it’s to be embraced. All of it! How lucky we are to have opportunities to evolve. Personally, my 40s have been a time of incredible growth, and I wouldn’t trade any of it for my 20-something looks. Wishing you a very happy birthday month!

Hannah Ashe's avatar

That’s so good and refreshing to hear about your positive experiences of your 40s so far. I often try to imagine in my head what I’ll think of myself when I’m 60 or 70 or older (hopefully). 40 will definitely seem young then and I’d be annoyed at my former self for thinking it was in any way old!

Wendy Gedney's avatar

I remember turning 40 as if it were yesterday and not 30 years ago but what an adventure I’ve had in those years. The best is yet to come Hannah. Bon anniversaire 🎈

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Love this, Wendy and merci! 🙏🏻

Chris Koch's avatar

thank you for sharing this wonderful comparidon to your roses and gardening

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Thanks so much for reading, Chris. My garden brings me so much joy! The roses are just starting to come out now and I love the way they bring glimpses of colour.

Lucy Hearne Keane's avatar

Sounds like you are on a journey to find your niche. You have taken brave steps so far. I am sure your next decade will consolidate it. I changed career direction in my early 40s. It was scary but I had a sense of where I wanted to progress to and kept visualizing it. Have a great big birthday. You will have a bird chorus in your garden

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Thanks Lucy! I love hearing about other women’s career change stories, especially when it happened later on. Visualising is good advice. I’ve been spurred on even more this week with the goings on in my ‘supposedly secure’ teaching job. I really just want to be in charge of my own destiny, but small gradual steps are hopefully getting me there 🐾

Elizabeth's avatar

Absolutely - we are all a work in progress! And happy birthday :)

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Thanks so much Elizabeth ☺️

Sarah Manley's avatar

Enjoy your birthday and all the moments x

Hannah Ashe's avatar

Thanks Sarah. Hope you’re having a lovely weekend with some walks/runs in the sun! ☀️ x